Let’s be honest here- asking out a girl is hard enough already. And now it’s 2021, where people are expected to know the right things to say or do in tricky situations. Social media and dating apps can make it difficult to know how to approach the girl you like in person. So it’s totally understandable if you feel a little nervous about asking the girl you like to hang out- it’s actually totally normal. But don’t worry! I’ve got you covered. In this guide, I’ll show you the most effective and practical ways to ask out a girl.
5 simple steps to invite a girl to hang out.
Step 1
Start With Being Confident
Confidence is the key when it comes to asking someone out.
– Going up to the girl you like and introducing yourself directly.
– Start a conversation over social media (Instagram, Snapchat, or Facebook Messenger) and build a rapport with her.
– Talk to her in person about something she’s interested in, provide compliments, and build a connection.
– Use humor to disarm her
– Cut to the chase and ask her directly.
Step 2
Choose A Suitable Place and Time
Choosing the right place and time is crucial.
– Invite her to a coffee shop to hang out before or after school/work.
– Suggest an activity in a public place (e.g. going for a walk in a park or visiting an interesting museum).
– Use the occasion of a party or other social gathering to ask her out.
– Use social media to suggest attending events she might be interested in going to, like a local music concert or a farmers’ market.
– Plan a casual date like going for ice cream, playing mini-golf, or visiting a petting zoo.
Step 3
Be Direct
Be clear and straightforward about your intentions.
– “Hey, I really enjoy talking to you. Would you like to hang out sometime?”
– “Would you like to grab lunch or coffee together sometime?”
– “I would love to get to know you better, are you free to hang out this weekend?”
– “I think you’re really interesting and I was wondering if you’d like to grab dinner with me?”
– “Would you like to come over and watch a movie tonight?”
Step 4
Be Courteous and Respectful
Show courtesy, respect, and ensure that she feels comfortable.
– Be polite and courteous throughout the time spent together.
– Respect personal boundaries and consent, and understand signs of discomfort.
– Don’t pressure her into anything.
– Make sure she knows it’s okay to say “no” and that you’ll respect that.
– Take things slow and ensure that both of you are comfortable with each step.
Step 5
Have Fun and Enjoy Yourself!
Remember to have fun and enjoy her company
– Be present and engage with her, listen to what she has to say
– Make an effort to have a good time
– Build a connection and try to identify common interests
– Laugh, joke around, make her laugh
– Show appreciation for what she brings to the table, whether it’s through compliments or by doing things she enjoys.
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Examples of three real-life conversations showing how to invite a girl to hang out.
Conversation 1:
Place of the conversation: Coffee shop on a weekday afternoon
People speaking: Michael & Rachel
Michael: Hey there, I always see you here studying, want to take a break and hang out for a bit?
Rachel: Oh, um, I’m not sure. I have a lot of work to do.
Michael: How about we just chat for a bit? Sometimes you need a break to be more productive, right?
Rachel: I guess that’s true. Ok, sure.
Michael: Great! I’ll buy us some coffee and we can find a table.
Rachel: Okay, thanks.
Michael: So, what are you studying?
Rachel: Biology, it’s pretty intense.
Michael: Wow, that sounds interesting. You must be very smart.
Rachel: laughs Not really, just trying my best.
Michael: Well, you seem to be handling it well. Hey, do you like to go hiking?
Rachel: Yeah, I love being outdoors.
Michael: Great, how about we plan a hiking trip sometime soon?
Rachel: That sounds awesome, I would like that.
Conversation 2:
Place of the conversation: Art museum
People speaking: Alex & Lucy
Alex: Hello, is this your first time visiting this museum?
Lucy: Hi, no, I’ve been here before.
Alex: Oh, okay. Well, I was wondering if you’d like to explore the museum together.
Lucy: Um, thank you for the offer, but I think I’ll explore on my own today.
Alex: Understandable, but I promise I can show you some hidden gems here.
Lucy: laughs Alright, fine. But just for a little while.
Alex: Awesome! Do you like contemporary art or more classic pieces?
Lucy: I think I prefer classic art, how about you?
Alex: I actually prefer contemporary art, but I’m open to anything. Let’s start with the classics though.
Lucy: Sounds like a plan.
Alex: You know, I heard there’s a great cafe nearby. How about we grab some coffee afterwards?
Lucy: That sounds lovely.
Conversation 3:
Place of the conversation: Text/online chat
People speaking: Jack & Emily
Jack: Hey, how’s it going?
Emily: Hi Jack, I’m doing pretty well. How about you?
Jack: I’m good too. So, I was wondering if you’re free this weekend?
Emily: Sorry Jack, I’m actually pretty busy this weekend.
Jack: No problem, how about next weekend then?
Emily: hmm, I’m not sure. What did you have in mind?
Jack: Well, how about we check out that new cafe that just opened up? I heard it’s really good.
Emily: Oh, I’ve been meaning to check that place out actually. Alright, sure.
Jack: Great! How about we meet there at 2 pm?
Emily: Yeah, that works for me. I’ll see you there.
Jack: Awesome, I’m looking forward to it.
Emily: Me too.
Conclusion
So, here we reached the end of our comprehensive guide on how to ask a girl out. Overall, the key to success is to be confident, respectful, and direct in your approach. Remember that it’s okay to feel nervous or unsure- we all have been there. The more you practice, the easier it will get. So, summon the courage, follow these steps and enjoy the process. Good luck, and happy asking out!
